October isn't just pink.. it's pink and blue. Are you wondering what I'm talking about? 5 years ago, I would have read this and go "huh?". October isn't just Breast Cancer Awareness, not that it's not a great cause, but there is another important cause that should be just as recognized, Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness. President Regan proclaimed it in 1988.
8 million children are stillborn or die each year within the first month. I have numerous friends who have either had miscarriages or their infant died. It's really sad. The thing is, even though it's sad and hurts, we need to talk about it. We need other women to know that we are here, we've been through it. That they're not crazy, that they will be able to live with purpose again, that they will never forget that child, that the days get easier, to remember those children. If you've been a reader for awhile, then you know I gave birth to my stillborn son, Benjamin, in June of 2007.
I've also had 5 miscarriages, one of which was with twins. I don't tell you this because I want you to feel sorry for me. I don't feel sorry for me. I was blessed to carry each one of those babies for the time that I had them. It was precious and I will never forget. However, before Benjamin passed, I had no idea that other women went through this. I felt like something was wrong with me. I'd had 2 miscarriages, and then a stillbirth at that point. I don't want other women to feel like that. I want them to know that it does happen to other women, and it unfortenately can happen. Not every pregnancy has a happy ending.
October 15th is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day every year. One this day this is a wave of light. It is for each person to light a candle at 7pm in their timezone in hopes that there will be a continuous wave of light for all the babies who left us too soon. I hope that you all will light a candle for the babies, and tell your friends. Let's talk about this. Let's not them these babies go without remembering them.